Sex (e.g. cybersex, porn, multiple anonymous sexual partners) and Love Addiction are real and You are not alone.
Sex Addiction treatment is a task centered approach. Part of the focus is to alleviate the obsessions and compulsions, and heal the shame, associated with this disease. Instead of surviving in chaos, You can bring order, peace and serenity to your life. The goal is not to stop having sex, but rather to build healthy sexual intimacy.
The essence of all addiction is the addict's experience of powerlessness over compulsive sexual behavior, resulting in their lives becoming unmanageable. The addict is out of control and experiences tremendous shame, pain and self-loathing. The addict may want to stop sexual compulsion -- making promises and many attempts to stop -- yet repeatedly fails to do so. The unmanageability of addicts' lives can be seen in the consequences they suffer: low self-esteem, isolation, loss of interest in things not sexual, financial troubles, loss of relationships, as well as despair, disease, and even death.
If you are honest with yourself, you'll have the strength and clarity to recognize that sex has become the most important part and goal in your life. You'll notice that you use sex to escape a myriad of feelings, including fear, anxiety, sadness, loneliness, stress, and even use sex to celebrate happy events in your life. I'll help to stay with your pain and move through it. I hope to offer mending to your brokenness and soothing relief from your pain. In working together, I'll help you find explanations for your reliance on faulty solutions (i.e. sex addiction, compulsive overeating). Beyond explanations, my goal is for you to find forgiveness for yourself, and create healthy self acceptance and self love. Instead of being stuck in lust, you'll gain relief from your addiction and experience healthy sexual intimacy. You'll get to know and honestly accept yourself
